My wife Kristina and I had a discussion about this topic. She didn't necessarily feel she wasn't pushed far enough but she felt that the focus was more directed towards her older brother. She was encouraged to do the things that he did. Part of her felt it was normal, or ok to be like her older brother, and part of her felt like she didn't have much choice in the matter.
There were expectations on her. She referred to them more as a "natural" push, following suit and doing the things (i.e. play an instrument) her family had respected for generations.
After playing an instrument through 5th, 6th, 7th, and 8th grade, this was when the "real" push by her family began. She was done playing an instrument, it felt like she was old enough to decide what to do with her extra-curricular time. She was told she had to continue on and resented her family's decision to make her. She continued on but felt it wasn't fair.
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ReplyDeleteDid your parents push you too far?
ReplyDeleteDo you feel you were not pushed far enough?
My wife Kristina and I had a discussion about this topic. She didn't necessarily feel she wasn't pushed far enough but she felt that the focus was more directed towards her older brother. She was encouraged to do the things that he did. Part of her felt it was normal, or ok to be like her older brother, and part of her felt like she didn't have much choice in the matter.
ReplyDeleteThere were expectations on her. She referred to them more as a "natural" push, following suit and doing the things (i.e. play an instrument) her family had respected for generations.
After playing an instrument through 5th, 6th, 7th, and 8th grade, this was when the "real" push by her family began. She was done playing an instrument, it felt like she was old enough to decide what to do with her extra-curricular time. She was told she had to continue on and resented her family's decision to make her. She continued on but felt it wasn't fair.